T's sick

So after last weeks fiasco I can't believe I am writing this now. G told me T and S had a temp on Wednesday. That night neither had a temp but S was up all night complaining of an ear ache. Thursday I took her to the doc and she was diagnosed with an ear infection. But I kept both kids home. While they weren't 100% themselves they had been fever free so on Friday I sent them to daycare. I was called Friday afternoon and told T had a temp on 101.5. By the time I got him home it was 102.5. I gave him some ibuprophin and he stayed on the couch all night until bedtime and then went to bed. Saturday and Sunday he had no fever but he was slighly clingy and fussy. He also didn't want to eat. Each day he barely ate anything. Otherwise he was ok/ Did play, talk, and otherwise seemed ok. Just "slighly" off. Then last night he was up every 45 minutes. Come 3am he spiked a fever again. OK, now I am worried. I couldn't sleep as I laid in bed worrying about him. I was mostly worried about the fact that he sustained a bad head injury last weekend and could this be due to that? So I did the thing you should never do: I got up and looked up things on the internet. Didn't find anything that would lead me to believe it is from hitting his head but instead read all the things that are WRONG with an intermittent fever. EEK! So for peace of mind I want him to see a doc today. Enter the ex...

Well, I guess it all started last night...
Jan 22 4:27pm G: are you bringing the kids over in the morning or am I getting them from daycare tomorrow?
Jan 22 5:16pm Me: whatever you want.
(since T hadn't had a fever since Friday and had only been clingy I figured he would be ok at daycare)
Jan 22 5:17pm G: I'll get them from daycare then.
Jan 22 5:17pm Me: I thought I was taking them to your house which is what the calander says. But I can take them to daycare.
Jan 22 5:19pm G: daycare works better for me.
Jan 22 5:31pm Me: have you figured out where and when you are moving yet?
Jan 22 5:32pm G: I will let you know when I do.

Jan 22 9:17pm Me: So on Friday I had to pick T up from daycare cuz he had a temp of 101.5. He hasn't had a temp all weekend but wasnt really himself either. This afternoon he was acting better so I thought he would be ok for daycare. But tonight he has been up every 30-45 minutes. I don't think he should go to daycare tomorrow.
Jan 22 9:21pm G: ok. Bring them both over in the morning.

Jan 23 5:59am Me: On the way

When we got to G's house he was grumpy and in a hurry. I was going to talk to him about T's fever during the night and ask him to take him to the doc. I even had $20 to give him for the appointment. Well, when we got there G seemed grumpy and in a rush to get the kids in and me out. I got as far as handing him the insurance info and $20 and he asked what it was for. I told him it was to take TJ to the doc. I didn't get to explain, he didn't ask me to leave then but I FELT shooed away.

Jan 23 6:55am Me: I will go ahead and make T's doc appt so I can relay all the symptoms that have me worried since you haven't been around him to know. What time works best for you?
Jan 23 7:14am G: I don't think he needs a doc. Plus S just got over this crap. I am not taking her around sick kids. You can come get T if you want to take him in.
(GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR)
Jan 23 8:11am Me: I thought you WANTED him to see a doc? So you could ask about a cough he has supposedly had for 4 months and the fact they "keep getting sick".
Jan 23 8:13am G: I know why they keep getting sick all the time, they are at daycare. I will take him but you have to watch S or you can take him and I will watch S. She just got better. I dont want to risk her getting sick again.
Jan 23 8:15am Me: Just ask to go to a room as soon as you get there and not wait in the waiting room. I am waiting for a call back from the doc office.
Jan 23 8:16am G: If you set an an appt you are taking him.
Jan 23 8:24am Me: I will be taking T to the doc this afternoon. Appt @ 3 so I will be there at 230.

*Update:
Picked T up and took him to the doc. He has Reactive Airway Disease (RAD) and requires steriods and round the clock breathing treatments. Plus is on an antibiotic for an ear infection.

Due to the breathing treatments he wont be able to go to daycare all week. So I asked George if he could keep the kids this week since he isn't working and constantly wants to be there daycare. He said he had "plans" but would check into canceling them. *eyeroll*

Jan 23 4:25pm G: I can't cancel my plans. You'll have to figure out wed thursday and friday. Sorry. Had I known sooner I would have been able to help.
Jan 23 5:35pm Me: I can't believe you. There is nothing that comes before my kids for me. Everything I do is for them. 100% of my money is for them. If I didn't HAVE to work I would be home with T. There is nothing that would come before that. I left work early today. Cxled my plans for tonight. All for him. Whatever your "obligations" are, they aren't enough. That is the difference between you and me. My kids are first no matter what else is going on in my life. And that is why you will NEVER have my respect!
Jan 23 5:45pm G: I don't need or want your respect. We got a divorce. The only thing I will ever "need" from you is your commitment to be civil in front of the kids.

(let me interject that when I dropped T off I went into the house. Talked, explained the meds and played nice in front of the kids. I can't believe he felt the need to say this because this is what I have said all along as he would scream at me and terrify the kids. Mainly S. I will never forget the day he was in my face screaming at me while holding her and she looked at me with tears streaming down her face and said to me "Mommy, I'm scared." He pisses me off.)

Jan 23 5:55pm G: this is what I can do. I will watch the kids til Friday and get caught up on child support if you let me claim S on taxes. I will pay my entire federal refund up to what you's be owed thru march 2012. Your choice, get paid three thousand dollars and I watch the kids or you watch the kids and get nada until I get a job.

(1) Bartering your kids again. You will watch them if I sign off on you claiming taxes??? Prick! 2) You OWE for YEARS of back taxes!! You Aint getting SHIT!! Yes, you only owe state taxes but the federal gov will send your refund to state because you owe state taxes!! I wouldn't see a penny!! 3) I am starting to work on the process to put a levy? lein? whatever it is on your money. Any taxes you are owed will come to me for back support. You win the lotto? I get my money first. Any money you get from ANYWHERE will come to ME!!!!!!!! (becasue I rock the Casbah))

Jan 23 5:57pm Me: No. Again, you are all about the money.
Jan 23 6:04pm G: I am completely broke. I am so broke that I almost had to cancel having the kids. I had a garage sale and barely made enough to keep the water and electricity on. I can't sit around because in a month I have to move and I don't have any cash. It's my own fault. However, I see a way for us to help eachother out. If you think it's all about money, your right, becasue i don't have the resources to keep from becoming homeless in a month or so.  (So how does him watching T have anything to do with this?)
Jan 23 6:05pm Me: Im sorry. No.
Jan 23 6:13pm G: not asking you to be sorry. Just asking you to make a deal that benefits us both in the long run. I can't watch the kids because I have to spend those days making money. You asked me to help so you would be able to make money and keep your vacation time at work when I need that time to make enough just to keep the power and water on. Thanks anyway.
(He misunderstood my sorry. It was a pity sorry not my genuinlly feeling bad for him. He quit his job. He made his bed. Even the divorce - I said I would stay and try to work on things if he would just QUIT SPENDING MONEY and he said no. Now he wated his money on TVs and games and such and quit his job and I am supposed to feel sorry for him. I don't think so.)