The job, the move and his lack of...

Date: Mon, 2 Jan 2012 09:08:05 -0700

Subject: This weekend

From: Me

To: G

I am trying to figure out next weekend for drop offs and pick ups. Am I dropping the kids off at your house on Friday? Or school? Are you dropping them off at school on Monday? Please let me know what your plans/expectations are. And here is the form...

**I gave him a form for his mom to get a friends and family discount while she was in town

On Tue, Jan 3, 2012 at 11:49 AM, G wrote:

Thank you for the form.  You can bring the kids over Friday morning or I can pick them up.  I have no preference.  I will bring them back to you Monday afternoon.  Will that work for you?

Date: Tue, 3 Jan 2012 13:05:04 -0700

Subject: Re: This weekend

From: Me

To: G

OK, I will drop them off Friday morning and we can meet at QT on Monday. I would like to set up the next months schedule. Do you have a job yet? Are there certain days you would prefer over others?

From G

Jan 3

To: me

I am still hunting for a job.  I would like to have the kids for Monday's and Tuesday's or Thursday's and Friday's for this month

On Wed, Jan 4, 2012 at 12:31 PM, G wrote:

Hello Allyson,

Here is my proposal.  Open the outlook attachment to see the Calendar version.  I included who would be picking up and dropping off and most of the time the kids would be in Day Care.  Pick up’s and drops offs are at day care or my house.  I really think it would be beneficial for the kids to have 3 days in a row at day care vs. splitting those days. This is the reason I want the kids at the beginning or end of the week.  I am willing to give up an evening with them to facilitate that for this month.  The schedule may need to change depending on when I move and secure a job.

Have a good day,

From: Me

Sent: Wednesday, January 04, 2012 12:44 PM

To: G

Subject: Re: Calendar

Im sorry I can't read this format. I am a visual person and reading it all doesn't allow me to "see" the days. Can you put it in a calendar please?

On Wed, Jan 4, 2012 at 1:18 PM, G wrote:

(Calendar attached)

From: Me

Sent: Thursday, January 05, 2012 9:52 AM

To: G

Subject: Re: Calendar

This schedule looks good. I do have one question: On the calendar you have moving to Mesa marked in the last week. Are you moving before or after you have the kids? Can you please provide me with the address of where you are moving as well as any roommates you will be moving in with? I still feel like Mesa isn’t the best move. I think it will make it very difficult for parenting time and you seeing the kids and I would hate for the kids to lose out on the time they get with you. But this is your decision and you are the one that will have to live with the burden/complications that this may create.

I also wanted to send you a notification about me claiming both children on last year’s taxes. So please let this letter serve as my notification that I will be claiming both kids on last year’s taxes due to your being behind on child support. Please note I will not be signing the Form 8332 Release/Revocation of Release of Claim to Exemption for Child by Custodial Parent. 

In regards to child support I did want to express my concern and sadness of your continued decision to not support your kids. I understand you are not working but even paying $50 a week or SOMETHING would be better than nothing. And your logic that my parents should have to “suffer the consequences” and support our children just because they helped me out of a bad marriage is the most skewed logic I have heard in a long time. I never thought you would turn out to be a dead beat dad but you prove me wrong time and time again, and I keep learning just how much I didn’t know what kind of person you really are.

On Thu, Jan 5, 2012 at 11:23 AM, G wrote:

The schedule is agreed to then, including pickups and drop offs.  Your pickup point on the 13th and 24th will be my house.  The details of my move aren’t yet complete.  You can claim S on the taxes. I am more than willing to support S and T by watching them while you are at work.  Let me know in advance if you wish to take advantage of that offer.

From: Me

Sent: Thursday, January 05, 2012 11:30 AM

To: G

Subject: Re: Calendar

I will be claiming both S and T on the taxes.

On Thu, Jan 5, 2012 at 11:38 AM, G wrote:

As stated in the divorce decree, T is yours to claim until S is no longer able to be claimed.  Then you get to claim him one year and I the next.

From: Me

Sent: Thursday, January 05, 2012 12:11 PM

To: G

Subject: Re: Calendar

One more thing that is bugging me and I have to address. As you stated I will be picking up the kids on the 13th and 24th. I can only ASSUME you want me to pick them up because of some misguided thought that because you picked them up from daycare it is my turn; yet you are completely discounting the fact that I dropped them off at daycare. Which is almost as far as the house and the complete opposite direction from me. But whatever. I will pick them up on those days because I don't want to argue now when I foresee plenty of arguments later on when you move to Mesa. So I yet again want to stress the move is YOUR CHOICE and YOU will have to deal with the burden it creates.

I also want to ask what you have been doing in the several months that you have been off? Not because I care about what you are doing but because I don't understand how in so much time you have yet to find a job. AGAIN, a decision YOU make and not working doesn't give you grounds to say you are available to watch the kids and should get some sort of "credit" for it.

On Thu, Jan 5, 2012 at 1:06 PM, G wrote:

The burden of driving will be shared as it states in our decree, distance is not addressed.   You could just bring the kids to my house and skip day care, problem solved.  You aren’t delivering the kids to me so you have to pick them up.  My employment search and every other part of my life is none of your business.  I will only give you the information I am obligated to share by our decree or if it is related to parenting our children.  There simply isn’t any other reason to communicate with you.   Have a great day!

From: Me

Sent: Thursday, January 05, 2012 8:34 PM

To: G

Subject: Re: Calendar

Reread page 6 of the decree...

"...Father's overnights shall begin at 5:00 p.m. on the day Father ends work and shall return the children to daycare before 8:00am on the day Father returns to work. As example, if Father's days off are Tuesday and Wednesday Father shall pick up the children from daycare at 5:00pm on Monday and return the children to daycare on Thursday......one weekday overnight with the children from 6:30 a.m. on his first full day off until 5:00pm on his second day off. As example, if Father has Tuesday and Wednesday off Father will pick the children up at 6:30 a.m. on Tuesday and drop the children off at 5:00 p.m. on Wednesday. ..."

PS Your employment IS my business because you owe $700/month in child support. Of which nonpayment is a jailable offence.

On Fri, Jan 6, 2012 at 12:17 AM, G wrote:

Like I have always said, things will have to change as soon as I get a different job and a new residence.  Hopefully we can find a solution once those matters are finalized that all parties can agree to.  This is between me and you, and doesn’t have to be any harder than we make it.  It is my hope that we can avoid litigation.

I will no longer respond to any email or communication that is not directly about parenting our children.  For some reason you can’t keep yourself from insulting or threatening me and it is not acceptable. 

**I couldn't find the last email I sent him. ?? But it said I wasn't insulting him or making threats. I was only stating facts and opinions.