**by now we have had our parenting conference and ADR. The ADR was one that both my lawer and the judge said they had never seen before. We couldn't come to an agreement on the debts until we came to an agreement on the parenting time. The parenting time was hard to agree on because G was finghting strictly based off of support payment. The amount of time he had with the kids only mattered based off of the pay he would have to make. It was sad to see him barter his time with his kids for money. In the end we agreed that he would get them for 3 overnights every other week and 1 overnight every other week. (So 3 nights one week, 1 night the next. Then 3, then 1...) And he would pay a reduced amount of support. Only paying $700/month instead of the $900/month it should be. And then based off of that the bills were split up quickly, with him taking a debt in my name and therefor me earning a security intrest in "his" car to ensure the debt got paid.
Aug 3 9:32am G: I have you noticed how close T likes to get to stuff to look at it?
Aug 3 9:32am G: I have you noticed how close T likes to get to stuff to look at it?
Aug 3 10:10am Me: That is just him being silly. If he is looking at a book he will hold it in his lap.
Aug 3 10:54am G: why did your attorney add in so many thinkgs that I didn’t agree to? Did you really think I would sign this? Why didn’t she add in everything we agreed to in the parenting conference? I didn’t agree to seeing our kids every other weekend once I have weekends off. I didn’t agree to pay everything so quickly. We don’t have an agreement for xmas or thanksgiving; even if you did concede to me on xmas. I have highlighted half of this decree as points for my attorney to counter. Why are you causing so much extra money to be spent on them instead of our bills??? I don’t understand what your problem is that you think I would agree to this.
Aug 3 12:15pm G: there is a remote chance I may need to bring the kids back to you this afternoon or evening. If that happens will you be available or will I need to find a sitter? I know this is frustrating but a little sympathy and understanding now will go a long way in the future. This is one of those things you are very curious about I know. You will have to trust me that it’s not something you want an answer to, possibly ever. Eventually I may tell you what happened, until then please don’t hold these last few emergency changes and unmovable doctors appts against me. I know you wouldn’t wish what I am going through outside of our divorce on anyone so please be understanding.
Aug 3 12:16pm Me: yes that is fine
Aug 3 12:16pm Me: Have a good interview
Aug 3 12:18pm G: its not and interview. This is not fun stuff or anything I can control
Aug 3 12:21pm G I wont know if I need to bring the kids back early until later today. If I haven’t called by 5:30 then I take them to daycare
Aug 3 12:33pm Me: OK
Aug 3 12:35pm Me: Is your girlfriend pregnant?
Aug 3 12:37pm G: stop speculating. You don’t want an answer right now
Aug 3 12:39pm Me: Impossible NOT to speculate. If the kids dad is having issues that involve a Dr. then I do want to know. Especially since it is affecting our kids and the time they get with their father.
Aug 3 12:42pm G: I understand and if I could change things I would. I will tell you what going on when I have definite answers. Until then I really don’t want to discuss it.
Aug 3 12:53pm G On a side note I have my sleep study next this Sunday, so I am addressing your concerns. It turns out the sleep apnea causes some real bad stuff so it’s a good thing it will be treated soon.
Aug 3 1:01pm G: I would like to plan some one on one time with each of the kids. If possible I’d like one afternoon a week with one of the kids, alternating weeks. That way we each get time with just S or just T
Aug 3 3:51pm G: Does S often wake up, potty, and ask for cereal at 1245am? She threw a tantrum when I said no. she proceeded to fall off my bed and hit her forehead. That ended the tantrum because she hit the edge of a TVtable/nightstand pretty hard. T fused a few times but did ok otherwise.
Aug 3 3:53pm Me: No she very rarely wakes for potty and has never asked for food. We just potty then head back to bed. (but the bathroom here has a dimmer so I only turn on enough light to see)
(bipolar much???)
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Aug 8 2:25pm G: please don’t speculate on facebook. C talks to her hubby who talks to me. It puts stress on their relationship enough as it is. Either de-friend C and stop talking to her or disclude her from those conversations. It has to be awkward enough for them, please don’t make it any worse.
Aug 8 2:26pm Me: I didn’t put anything on FB and I haven’t talked to C in over a month.
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