BASTARD!! I texted George that I was going to fax the bank requesting a Deed In Lue of Foreclosure. Texts below…
May 15 8:03am Me: I am going to fax papers into the bank today requesting a deed in lue of foreclosure (surrender of the property). They will then contact me and need access to the house to appraise it.
May 15 8:11am G: That’s not your place and beyond what we agreed in the divorce. I won’t consent to it.
May 15 8:13am Me: You aren’t doing anything. I got a letter from the bank yesterday that they are aware the property is vacant and they may take possession of it anyway. The deed in lue will release us of responsibility of the property. If you don’t want to do it please explain what other plan you have.
May 15 8:14am G: I am trying to get a loan modification and keep it.
May 15 8:15am Me: Then pay the HOA
May 15 8:17am Me: Why did you move then? How do you expect to get a loan mod with no job? When will my name be removed?
May 15 8:20am G: as soon as I have the money I will. I don’t have any cash atm I can use to pay them. A lot of things changed recently. I have a tentative job offer. I didn’t want to say anything because it’s not final yet. We can discuss it once the offer is final. I will let you know when I have more info.
If he tried for a loan mod it will put a hold on the foreclosure. And when he CAN’T get a loan modification everything will reset and the foreclosure process will have to be started ALL OVER AGAIN!!!
I HATE HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
May 15 8:30am Me: Are you still living in Mesa or are you moving back to the house?
May 15 8:32am G: that is up in the air. I will move back into the house if the mod goes through. I don't have time to discuss this right now. Have a good day. TTYL.
Update:
I knew something wasn't right. I just had this funny feeling when he said, "A lot of things changed recently."...
I sent him a text today that T has HFM (Hand, Foot, Mouth disease aka Coxsackie Virus) again. He asked how he was doing and i said he was home with my dad today. I was hoping he would offer to take the kids tomorrow but I'm glad I didn't hold my breath.
May 17 8:32am Me: T has hfm again :(
May 17 9:15am G: that sucks. How long is that contagious for?
May 17 9:19am G: How is he doing? how is S?
May 17 9:27am G: can I call and talk to S?
May 17 10:26am Me: They are home with my dad today. I couldn't take any more time off work. He seems to be doing ok. S has been ok too. My dad in town is a good distraction.
May 17 10:25am G: ok good. Id like to talk to them later if possible. text me when it's a good time for me to talk to them.
He called at 4:56pm. He talked to S and then T. Then he talked to me. I explained how T had been. Also told him S had developed a cough and that T had a cough last week that I took him to the doc for. He asked how I knew T had hfm. If I had taken him to the doc? I said no. He asked if I was sure it wasn't Parvo. I told him dogs get parvo. he told me people get it too. Things were just sounding too wierd. Then he told me to keep him updated on the kids conditions because it would affect his visitation next week. I asked how it would affect visitation and he told me that if they were still sick he wouldn't be able to take them. I asked why not. After just the slightest hesitation he said he had finals he had to study for. and so he couldn't focus if he had sick kids. (*ahem*bullshit*ahem*) I asked him what I was to do with them becaues I already took yesterday unpaid because I have no more sick time and I couldn't keep asking my mom to take her time off and watch them. he said we would cross that bridge when we come to it. That we have all weekend for them to get better. *sigh*
After I got off the phone and had time I googled parvo...
"Fifth disease, so-called because it was the fifth red-rash childhood disease to be identified, is generally a mild illness that most commonly affects preschool and school-age children. It's also sometimes referred to as "slapped cheeks disease" because of the telltale red facial rash that infected children commonly develop.
Adults can get fifth disease, too. It's caused by a virus called parvovirus B19, which inhibits the production of red blood cells. For otherwise healthy adults and children, a temporary halt in the production of new cells isn't a problem because the illness usually doesn't last longer than most of the red blood cells they already have circulating. But for people with chronic anemia (from a condition such as sickle cell disease) or an immune deficiency, and for a relatively small number of unborn babies, the virus can cause serious problems."http://www.babycenter.com/0_fifth-disease-parvovirus-b19-during-pregnancy_1463060.bc
Uh huh! Suspicions confirmed...
May 17 6:46pm Me: I wish you would quit lying to me. Especially since you aren't good at it. I'm not dumb. I didn't believe your lie about finals. And I looked it up and parvo is 5ths disease. Which I know ALL about because S had it when I was pregnant with T. Please stop treating me like I am dumb. Please stop lying to me.
May 17 6:57pm G: I do have my finaly in calculus next saturday. I have a ton of work to do to prepare for it. I am concerned about T and wanted to try to figure out what he has. I may have gotten bad info on the parvo thing. It was second hand info. I am also concerned about S now. Are you sure it is not measels? They always get hfm in their mouths, not on the hands and feet.
May 17 7:30pm Me: I'm positive it is hfm. But if you would like to come take him to the doc then I would be fine with that.
May 17 7:34pm G: k
May 15 8:30am Me: Are you still living in Mesa or are you moving back to the house?
May 15 8:32am G: that is up in the air. I will move back into the house if the mod goes through. I don't have time to discuss this right now. Have a good day. TTYL.
Update:
I knew something wasn't right. I just had this funny feeling when he said, "A lot of things changed recently."...
I sent him a text today that T has HFM (Hand, Foot, Mouth disease aka Coxsackie Virus) again. He asked how he was doing and i said he was home with my dad today. I was hoping he would offer to take the kids tomorrow but I'm glad I didn't hold my breath.
May 17 8:32am Me: T has hfm again :(
May 17 9:15am G: that sucks. How long is that contagious for?
May 17 9:19am G: How is he doing? how is S?
May 17 9:27am G: can I call and talk to S?
May 17 10:26am Me: They are home with my dad today. I couldn't take any more time off work. He seems to be doing ok. S has been ok too. My dad in town is a good distraction.
May 17 10:25am G: ok good. Id like to talk to them later if possible. text me when it's a good time for me to talk to them.
He called at 4:56pm. He talked to S and then T. Then he talked to me. I explained how T had been. Also told him S had developed a cough and that T had a cough last week that I took him to the doc for. He asked how I knew T had hfm. If I had taken him to the doc? I said no. He asked if I was sure it wasn't Parvo. I told him dogs get parvo. he told me people get it too. Things were just sounding too wierd. Then he told me to keep him updated on the kids conditions because it would affect his visitation next week. I asked how it would affect visitation and he told me that if they were still sick he wouldn't be able to take them. I asked why not. After just the slightest hesitation he said he had finals he had to study for. and so he couldn't focus if he had sick kids. (*ahem*bullshit*ahem*) I asked him what I was to do with them becaues I already took yesterday unpaid because I have no more sick time and I couldn't keep asking my mom to take her time off and watch them. he said we would cross that bridge when we come to it. That we have all weekend for them to get better. *sigh*
After I got off the phone and had time I googled parvo...
"Fifth disease, so-called because it was the fifth red-rash childhood disease to be identified, is generally a mild illness that most commonly affects preschool and school-age children. It's also sometimes referred to as "slapped cheeks disease" because of the telltale red facial rash that infected children commonly develop.
Adults can get fifth disease, too. It's caused by a virus called parvovirus B19, which inhibits the production of red blood cells. For otherwise healthy adults and children, a temporary halt in the production of new cells isn't a problem because the illness usually doesn't last longer than most of the red blood cells they already have circulating. But for people with chronic anemia (from a condition such as sickle cell disease) or an immune deficiency, and for a relatively small number of unborn babies, the virus can cause serious problems."http://www.babycenter.com/0_fifth-disease-parvovirus-b19-during-pregnancy_1463060.bc
Uh huh! Suspicions confirmed...
May 17 6:46pm Me: I wish you would quit lying to me. Especially since you aren't good at it. I'm not dumb. I didn't believe your lie about finals. And I looked it up and parvo is 5ths disease. Which I know ALL about because S had it when I was pregnant with T. Please stop treating me like I am dumb. Please stop lying to me.
May 17 6:57pm G: I do have my finaly in calculus next saturday. I have a ton of work to do to prepare for it. I am concerned about T and wanted to try to figure out what he has. I may have gotten bad info on the parvo thing. It was second hand info. I am also concerned about S now. Are you sure it is not measels? They always get hfm in their mouths, not on the hands and feet.
May 17 7:30pm Me: I'm positive it is hfm. But if you would like to come take him to the doc then I would be fine with that.
May 17 7:34pm G: k
I so wanted to hit my head on the desk after that!?! But then I thought better of it because it will hurt and then I will have that to be mad at him for, too. The house thing is total selfishness. He's not going to fix anything by holding on to it. WTH is changing? Is he engaged? Why does he toy with you with information. It's like the person who dangles a carrot in front of a donkey but that can't be because he's the only ass in this equation. It's like he feels so powerless in so many other aspects of his life, the only thing he has left to try to control is you with information and the kids with whether or not he "feels" up to taking on the parental responsibilities that weekend. He doesn't ASK if you can keep the kids so he can study, he TELLS you he's not going to get the kids because he HAS to study. It's ridiculous and I am so sorry you have to deal with all the bullshit.
ReplyDeleteJen, I think you missed what I was implying. He is BSing about needing to study. He doesn't want the kids over because they are sick. He is worried about them having 5ths disease. The only reason to be afraid of 5ths disease (because it generally doesn't affect adults) is if someone were pregnant. *AHEM*
ReplyDeleteAHHHHHH!!!! THAT's it. I get it now. OHhhh geez. Hello, new complication. I'd like to know how someone so broke they can't afford the two children they got is going to afford the new child they've created. That poor kid...YOUR poor kids. Makes me feel ill, seriously.
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