From: A
Sent: Saturday, March 03, 2012 6:01 PM
To: G
Subject: Next week
Just trying to figure out how/when drop offs and pickups will be. If I had to guess Monday morning I drop the kids off. I meet you Tuesday afternoon at QT. The Friday morning I drop them off and you take them to school on Monday. Is this what you were thinking??
On Sat, Mar 3, 2012 at 6:31 PM, G wrote:
I don’t have next weekend figured out yet. Please drop them off Monday morning and we’ll met Tuesday at QT at 4. If I can get them Friday, I’ll have to pick them up from daycare.
From: A
Sent: Saturday, March 03, 2012 6:47 PM
To: George
Subject: Re: Next week
Bummer. I was hoping to save on daycare since they went 5 days this week. Do you have any money you can give me this week? After paying extra for daycare I'm short on my electric bill. Well, I can pay it but then I don't have money for groceries again.
Also, T has his Dr appt on Monday to get his stiches out. The appointment is at 9:45am. Thanks, it will save me from having to take time off work.
On Sat, Mar 3, 2012 at 9:26 PM, G wrote:
Please fax over the daycare insurance form to the doctor’s office to cover the co-pay. I don’t have the extra cash to cover that at the moment. I have explained my finances to you. I had to borrow $40 from g/f to get your stroller. I will need to be refunded for that on Monday. As soon as I have some extra money I will send it to you through the child support payment system. I don’t know about Friday yet. I wasn’t able to get much homework done last week so I need to catch up this week. I will let you know Thursday afternoon if I can take them Friday morning.
** I should explain a couple things. T fell at school last week and I had to pick him up and take him to emergency. He required 5 stiches. :(
I also found a smaller, umbrella type double stroller on Craigslist. The double I had didn't fit in the trunk of my new car. (btw... I bought a new car. Or, I should say, my parents bought me a new car. Great, more indebted to the 'rents. *sigh* But I am happy with it and thankful they are able to help me out so much. I don't know what I would do without them.) Anyway, the stroller was on the other side of town from me. About 45 minutes. BUT it was only 5 minutes from his g/f house. So I talked him into getting it for me. Anyway...
March 5 8:18pm G: can I come get the kids Saturday morning? The due date for Saturday is the 9th. She is very depressed and I'd like to be there for her.
March 5 8:19pm Me: I don't understand what you are talking about
March 5 8:24pm G: the due date for mine and g/f's baby is this friday. She is very distraut already. I'd like to be there for her Friday so can I pick up the kids Saturday morning?
March 5 8:27pm Me: Fine. I will always keep the kids. And I will shut my mouth there before I "say" something I will regret.
March 5 8:30pm G: thank you. I will pay the extra cost of daycare for Friday. I'll deposit it into your child support account.
March 5 8:31pm Me: You should deposit a whole lot more than that. But this isn't about money. It is about a little girl who brought me a sad monkey yesterday. But I get it. Whatever.
** S had brought me her stuffed monkey on Sunday and told me he was sad. I aksed why and she told me it was because he missed his daddy. We gave him hugs and told him he would see his daddy tomorrow.
March 5 8:35pm G: I understand. I don't have a ton of money and we can negotiate a plan for me to get caught up once I have a job and a place to live. the kids are very important to me. I'd like to keep them til Monday morning. Then take them again later in the week.
**Sigh. I worry S is gonna have issues. Should I take her to a psych? Should I wait and see if problems develop? She isn't even 4 yet. :(
That is so sad. I'm still not sure how he doesn't get it. He had children with you. Priority number 1. Then he goes and gets himself a new girlfriend and schooling? All of the sudden these things come before his precious child? This makes my stomach turn. I can't imagine being in your shoes having to explain this to her. YOU have to see her heart break and sadness. YOU have to pick up the pieces, restore her self-esteem and remind her that it's not her fault How UNFAIR. I'm so sorry. I can't imagine the hell you must walk through when what you really want to say is, "Daddy's an ass, honey. Plain and simple." Ugh.
ReplyDeletei couldn't agree more... these children and their happiness --- and their futures, the future hearts, their future children's hearts --- need to be thought of way before his g/f and the wisp of a child that shouldn't have ever been (i'm sorry if that sounds cruel or heartless --- I don't mean for it to be at all, i don't think ANY pregnancy loss or miscarriage should ever be described that way, but the way he acts just curdles my emotions beyond belief) and how "distraut" he and his new g/f now are. poor, poor S and little man... and big hugs to you...
ReplyDeleteDont feel heartless. There are a lot of things I want to say about that pregnancy but I don't out of respect for everyone else who has had a miscarriage. I just don't understand morning a loss of a pregnancy that was never "fully" a pregnancy (isn't that what a "chemical pregnancy" is/isn't? It never even made it out of the cell division stage?) when you have a 3 year old right here who needs you. I just don't get it.
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