When you start to SUPPORT your children, THEN you will have some say

Feb 25 9:20pm Me: Plan for this week?
Feb 25 9:21pm G: will get back to you tomorrow
Feb 25 9:23pm Me: Do you still plan to move to Mesa?
Feb 25 9:25pm G: yes I am looking for a place. I am very busy with homeowrk at the moment. Can we talk tomorrow?
Feb 25 9:26pm Me: I'll send an email

On Sat, Feb 25, 2012 at 9:53 PM, A wrote:

I have expressed my concern many times over your move to Mesa and I am making a last ditch effort to try to reason with you. I really think anytime I have mentioned it you think I am just the stupid ex trying to screw you or something. I really am just thinking about the kids and your ability to see them. I have mentioned how difficult it would be once the kids start school but you keep acting as if that is a long way off. It is not.

I am working on trying to figure out how to get S in an acredited preK program. I love her daycare. I love the teachers. I love the care both kids receive. But I feel like they focus more on the daycare part then the learning part. You know I am BIG on education and getting the right start is important. I really want to get S in the PreK program hosted by her school district. ( https://www.dvusd.org/pages_parent_student/comm_ed_preschool.html ) I still don't know if I will be able to make it work, a lot of it depends on getting qualified for financial aid from DES and also figureing out before and after care for her as well as care for T. I don't know if it will work but on the off chance that it does I want you to be prepared for her to be in school.

So how does this affect you? More importantly how does this affect you moving to Mesa?

If I can work out for her to attend this preK progarm it will be just like school. Monday thru Friday 8:30am-3pm. Even if I signed her up for half days it would still require for her to attend all 5 days/week. If you get a job where you have weekends off, your weekends will be fine. You can pick her up from school at the end of her day Friday and drop her off there Monday morning. Or if you have to work, drop her off here Sunday night. But your weekday visitation will be impacted. Also, since you have had difficulty getting a job, at this point I would think you would take any job and that may not allow you weekends off. Which means your weekends are during the week. With that one week night or the possibility of 3 days during the week; if you lived close you would be able to easily pick her up after school and drop her off at school in the morning. If you are in Mesa I just don't see how that is possible. Are you going to get her up SOOO early in the morning and schlep her across town to make it to school by 8:30am?

Even if I am not able to work out this PreK it is only a year and a half until she starts Kindergarten. And then again, she will be in school 5 days a week and the same problems still exist. I understand your g/f lives in Mesa. I understand her parents live there and her brother and such. I am sure she wants to be close to them. But you need to decide if that is really what is best for you and for the kids. G/f can easily live on this side of town and commute to work and commute to see her family. It isn't as difficult as what it will be for you to try to see your kids.

That is all. I am done. You make your own descisions. You do what you have to do. I will never bug you about it again.

Feb 26 11:17am Me: Schedule for the week?
Feb 26 11:41am G: I hurt my back so I'm not sure yet. you should consult me when making school descisions. I hope you realize that the current agreement will have to be altered as situations change. that includes moves, jobs and school changes. we can work together or we can continue battling over every little thing. I'd rather we work together.

On Sun, Feb 26, 2012 at 9:12 PM, G wrote:

I have been sick and somehow I hurt my back.   I’ll be in touch as soon as I feel better.

Give the kids a hug for me.

-George

Feb 29 4:38pm Me: How is your back? You taking the kids tomorrow or skipping this week?
Feb 29 5:10pm G: going to have to skip this week. lets plan on monday and tues next week. How is T?
Feb 29 5:12pm G: thank you for asking about ym back. unfortunately it still hurts real bad.