When you start to SUPPORT your children, THEN you will have some say

Feb 25 9:20pm Me: Plan for this week?
Feb 25 9:21pm G: will get back to you tomorrow
Feb 25 9:23pm Me: Do you still plan to move to Mesa?
Feb 25 9:25pm G: yes I am looking for a place. I am very busy with homeowrk at the moment. Can we talk tomorrow?
Feb 25 9:26pm Me: I'll send an email

On Sat, Feb 25, 2012 at 9:53 PM, A wrote:

I have expressed my concern many times over your move to Mesa and I am making a last ditch effort to try to reason with you. I really think anytime I have mentioned it you think I am just the stupid ex trying to screw you or something. I really am just thinking about the kids and your ability to see them. I have mentioned how difficult it would be once the kids start school but you keep acting as if that is a long way off. It is not.

I am working on trying to figure out how to get S in an acredited preK program. I love her daycare. I love the teachers. I love the care both kids receive. But I feel like they focus more on the daycare part then the learning part. You know I am BIG on education and getting the right start is important. I really want to get S in the PreK program hosted by her school district. ( https://www.dvusd.org/pages_parent_student/comm_ed_preschool.html ) I still don't know if I will be able to make it work, a lot of it depends on getting qualified for financial aid from DES and also figureing out before and after care for her as well as care for T. I don't know if it will work but on the off chance that it does I want you to be prepared for her to be in school.

So how does this affect you? More importantly how does this affect you moving to Mesa?

If I can work out for her to attend this preK progarm it will be just like school. Monday thru Friday 8:30am-3pm. Even if I signed her up for half days it would still require for her to attend all 5 days/week. If you get a job where you have weekends off, your weekends will be fine. You can pick her up from school at the end of her day Friday and drop her off there Monday morning. Or if you have to work, drop her off here Sunday night. But your weekday visitation will be impacted. Also, since you have had difficulty getting a job, at this point I would think you would take any job and that may not allow you weekends off. Which means your weekends are during the week. With that one week night or the possibility of 3 days during the week; if you lived close you would be able to easily pick her up after school and drop her off at school in the morning. If you are in Mesa I just don't see how that is possible. Are you going to get her up SOOO early in the morning and schlep her across town to make it to school by 8:30am?

Even if I am not able to work out this PreK it is only a year and a half until she starts Kindergarten. And then again, she will be in school 5 days a week and the same problems still exist. I understand your g/f lives in Mesa. I understand her parents live there and her brother and such. I am sure she wants to be close to them. But you need to decide if that is really what is best for you and for the kids. G/f can easily live on this side of town and commute to work and commute to see her family. It isn't as difficult as what it will be for you to try to see your kids.

That is all. I am done. You make your own descisions. You do what you have to do. I will never bug you about it again.

Feb 26 11:17am Me: Schedule for the week?
Feb 26 11:41am G: I hurt my back so I'm not sure yet. you should consult me when making school descisions. I hope you realize that the current agreement will have to be altered as situations change. that includes moves, jobs and school changes. we can work together or we can continue battling over every little thing. I'd rather we work together.

On Sun, Feb 26, 2012 at 9:12 PM, G wrote:

I have been sick and somehow I hurt my back.   I’ll be in touch as soon as I feel better.

Give the kids a hug for me.

-George

Feb 29 4:38pm Me: How is your back? You taking the kids tomorrow or skipping this week?
Feb 29 5:10pm G: going to have to skip this week. lets plan on monday and tues next week. How is T?
Feb 29 5:12pm G: thank you for asking about ym back. unfortunately it still hurts real bad. 

Can They Do That??

So Monday night G texts me to ask if he could have the kids in the AM. It was such short notice but fine, whatever. They need to see him and I didn't have any plans. They stayed with him last night and then we met at QT to exchange them today.

While at QT I offered to finally sign the title of the Ford over to him if he wanted to meet me at work on Friday. I figured I would draw him there and then get him to sign the doc I posted last week. He told me he already took care of it. WHAT?!?! Apparently he went into the DMV and showed them the divorce decree saying that he was awarded the car. I bet he didn't show them the part where I was granted a security intrest. But still I am surprised they would just transfer title like that!!

Well, I guess I don't have to worry about that anymore. :-/ Stupid F'en government. He got the title transferred and got the car registered. First thing in the morning I plan to cancel the insurance on it. After he drove off I received the following text:

Feb 22 4:15pm G: thank you for the jesture on the title. I appreciate it and it means a lot to me. I was driving without registration and had to get that remidied. I couldn't do that without having the title transferred. Does that mean you are giving up the security intrest in the vehicle?

I didn't answer but was amazed he thought I was doing it to be nice. PISH! He called shortly after and again thanked me. I told him I was doing i because I couldn't afford to keep paying for insurance nor could I get it registered and the emissions done. It was becoming too costly so I had no choice. But he was still living high. He asked if I was releasing my security intrest and I told him I didn't know what I was doing. That I was going to have him sign a doc where I wasn't releasing anything. But at this point I didn't know what to do. He just said ok.

I then told him I would be sending him more doc bills. I received the bills from T being sick. My insurance only covers 80% so we owe some for the Nebulizer and the treatment in the office. He said ok. He was expecting to get some money early next month. (He didn't say from where) So I have no idea how much he plans to give me. He also told me he had put in a bunch of aplications but only just heard back on a job. Whatever. I wont hold my breath on any of this. Later I sent a text asking him if he knew where/when he would be moving. He said he didn't know yet as he and his girlfriend were having trouble finding a place that would accept their dogs. (Both pitts)

And so now to just keep waiting and moving forward. I am working on buying a car. Well, my parents are buying me a car. Thank God for them. Without them I would be sunk. I am thinking maybe a Nissan Versa or a Chevy HHR. We will see.

The Ford

February 15, 2012

I, A B, state the following regarding the 2002 Ford Escape VIN 1************* and believe all statements to be true.

• The final divorce decree stated that I would have a lien against the Escape until the Wells Fargo Visa listed solely in my name was paid in full by G B.

• As of this date, G B has made no payments on the Wells Fargo Visa loan.

• I allege that the Ford Escape is legally mine due to the payment default of G B.

• The Escape vehicle insurance that was in G B’s name was cancelled for non payment in August 2011.

• In October, I changed the title to my name only and reinsured the vehicle – I have been paying the Escape liability premiums required by law since that time.

• The registration expired in December 2011.

• G B will not relinquish the vehicle to me.

• G B will continue to drive this vehicle.

At this point I am no longer able:

• to ensure the vehicle is not driven with an expired registration
• to afford the emissions testing or registration
• to afford the insurance for a vehicle that I cannot use for my own transportation

Based solely on being unable to exercise any control over this vehicle and the associated costs for this vehicle, I am signing the title over to G B.

I have received no monetary compensation for signing this vehicle title over to G.

Date: ______________________________              Date: _______________________________

___________________________________              ____________________________________

A B                                                                               G B

(Signing this document does not mean that G agrees with the statements above)

___________________________________

Notary

Out of Money

Feb 10 4:04pm Me: Can you pay me back for the medical expenses today? I checked my account balance and only have $27. I haven't bought groceries for this week and only have 1/4 tank of gas.
Feb 10 4:23pm G: I wish I could but my monitary situation hasn't changed. I would have had $4000 to give you but you didn't let me claim S so I don't gat a tax refund this year. Yes, it was that big of a difference for me. You however should have gotten a gigantic tax refund already so you shouldn't be that broke right now. Oh that's rightyou filed bankruptcy and they probably garnished your refund. bummer. I am hunting for a job still and it's likely that I wont be able to pay you until I am actually employed again.
Feb 10 4:33pm G: the bk court did take your tax refund didn't they?
Feb 10 4:56pm G: your silence tells me I am right and the court did take your refund. that means you screwed me out of getting caught up on my child support. you screwed yourself out of getting all that child support and the kids because now we are both struggling. I only owed $550 dollars to the state and they took my entire final check for $450. So I only owed $100. I hope I am wrong and you have a $5000 refund headed your way.
Feb 10 5:14pm Me: OR it means I am driving and can't text. I told you I had errends I haven't filed my taxes which wont help me at all this week. And my taxes are NONE of your business anyway. As for your owed taxes you owe more than 550. The 550 is joint. You also owe past back taxes from before we were married. Which is where the 450 went. But I explained all this before. You should REALLY call RS with the AZ IRS and figure everything out. So yes, it looks likeI will be paying yet another debt of yours.... the taxes. Thank you.
Feb 10 5:17pm Me: I don't know why your think I would let you claim S anyway. I would LOSE money by doing so.
Feb 10 5:29pm G: I hope you are getting a huge return. I know you need it.

***YES, I have to turn my taxes over to the BK court. But that is none of his business. And I would never see a dime of a return from him. After the governmant took what they are owed he would tell me he didn't get enough back and can't afford to give me any because he needs it to move. I am not dumb. I wouldn't have seen a dime of that money.

Visitation

Feb 5 9:52am Me: I need to know if/when you are taking the kids next week, especially on Friday.
Feb 5 12:26pm G: What's going on friday?
Feb 5 12:44pm Me: It's Ts birthday on Friday and your year. I am having his party on Saturday but I need to plan when he will take cupcakes to class.
Feb 5 12:51pm G: How about Thursday and Friday then? Can you bring them over before work?
Feb 5 12:51pm Me: so thurs morn to friday afternoon?
Feb 5 12:52pm G: I get them until 8 on their b day doing I?
Feb 5 12:53pm Me: I think 6 but let me check
Feb 5 12:55pm Me: Papers say noon to 6. Do you want them until 6:30 and that way they get home in time for a regular bedtime?
Feb 5 12:56pm G: I'd like to have them til 8so I can have a party including people who work that day.
Feb 5 12:57pm Me: And I would like them home for bedtime so they are rested for Sat. Split the diff and say 7. AT QT.
Feb 5 1:01pm G: think about the time line for a sec. People get off work 5:30-6. then have to drive over. 8 is a good time that allows enough time for a party on the day of his birthday. Otherwise he doesn't get a party on his birthday day :(
Feb 5 1:03pm Me: He's two. He doesn't know the difference. He will have a party at school on wed. A party on Saturday. He can have a party on friday too but it just may not be huge. At this point I think the kids would just be happy to see you.
(He could also do a party on Thusday instead since he has them all night. DUH!)
Feb 5 1:04pm Me: Im not budging later than 7.
Feb 5 1:09pm G: ok so Ill take the at 7 am on thursday morning. and bring them back at 7 friday at QT. I may be able to some see them Tuesday. mind if I pick them up from day care? (typos are his)
Feb 5 1:21pm Me: times?
Feb 5 1:23pm G: I don't know if I can yet. it would be like 9 or 10 and then meet at QT at 4.
Feb 5 1:25pm Me: I don't think so. Then I have to pay for a full day of daycare for them to be there for 2 hours or so. It wouldn't make me feel good to throw money away like that.
Feb 5 1:37pm G: ok. I was just trying to make time because you keep saying how bad the kids want to see me

Schedules

From: Me
Sent: Wednesday, February 01, 2012 12:16 PM
To: G
Subject: About the kids

Here are the receipts from the kids being sick. Total is $65. Your share would be $32.50. Added to the $65 previously owed and the total owed in medical expenses is $97.50. 

I would like to work out the schedule for Feburary. Please let me know what your thoughts are. Also, I know you mentioned possibly seeing the kids later this week. I haven't heard from you about that and I am assuming it will not happen. However, S has asked several times when she will see you next. I would like to give her an answer soon. 

Thank you.

From: G
Sent: Wed, Feb 1, 2012 at 10:57 PM
To: Me
Subject: RE: About the kids

I am not sure yet.  I may be able to take the kids Friday while you are at work; it depends on what I get done tomorrow.  I don’t want to plan out the next month;  a lot of things could change pretty quick.   You can call for S and T anytime when they are missing me.  

Are the kids feeling better?  How is T's asthma?

How is your BK progressing?  I need to know if the timeline is changing for the sale of the house.


From: Me
Sent: Thu, Feb 2, 2012 at 7:53 AM
To: G
Subject: RE: About the kids

I have asked her if she wants to call you and she has said no. She just needs to know when she will see you. She is really learning the concept of time and knew she was supposed to be at your place on Monday. I told her you were busy, you missed her and she would see you soon. This morning before I left the daycare she again asked when she would see you. I told her I don't know because you are still busy and again said you love her and miss her and will see her soon.

It is really hard on all of us to not have a schedule. It really helps her to know what is going on and when . She has always been this way, it is part of her OCD. It also helps me so I can plan things. I need to know when to take cupcakes to school for Ts birthday (because I have to order them.) Also, there are special events at school and I need to know if the kids will be there to take part in them. (Valentines party, Mardi Gras event, etc.) The kids also have a dentist appointment coming up and TJ has his well check and I need to know how to plan for these. And lastly it helps me so I can plan my own life. Not that I am sure you care much about that. By not having a schedule and knowing what things are going on you are making ALL our lives more difficult.

The kids are fine. Feeling better and having no issues. No asthma issues from T. I expect he won't have any issues until he gets sick again. At his well check I will ask about allergy testing.

As for the BK I haven't heard anything new. The house is still set for a sale date of the 21st.