Summertime

May 27^th:

G: Tomorrow morning around 10. For 2 nights. I’ll bring them back Friday afternoon?

A: OK. So long as you remember you won’t have them the next weekend as we will be camping.

G: which weekend is that?

A: We leave the 6^th and return the 8^th

G: I also want them when I get off work 1-2 nights per week.

A: 1 night

G: Why not Thursday and Friday night. I’ll bring them to you before I go to work.

A: I’m too tired for this discussion now. We can talk later. For this week though you are taking them Wed and Thurs correct?

A email: If you want them every Thursday night and every other Friday and Sat that is fine. But you are not taking them every Thursday/Friday as Friday is considered the weekend. We plan stuff for Friday nights. I honestly think it would be better to have your week night be a Tuesday or Wednesday night because it is hard on both the kids and me to have them go to your house, back to me for the day and back to you that night. But I am willing to try it.

G email: So I think every Tuesday and Wednesday night and every other Friday evening - Monday morning.

A email: Tuesday OR Wednesday. When we decided on the schedule we agreed to 1 night a week and every other weekend. The weekends are Friday and Saturday night. The Sunday night is considered your 1 night for that week. Which is why the opposite week was always screwy. I am willing to concede that night to "add it to your weekend" and have you take the kids Fri- Sun plus Tuesday OR Wednesday each week. 

Today May 30^th:

A: Is your brother still coming the 20^th – 22^nd?

G: yes, he bought tix to fly out. I’ll bring the kids by at 2?

A: Can we make it 4? And then I want to discuss the schedule.

G: Sure. Since I have weekends off I will be taking the kids a least 1 night per week on either Tues, Wed, or Thurs, plus every other weekend.

A: Right. Weekends are screwy. We can look and discuss when you drop off.

G: I just had them so I’ll have them the weekend of the 14^th and then again the 20^th because Mike will be in town. Then the following weekend. Count the weekend of the 20^th as vacation time I have never used. Just fair warning events planned on my scheduled days may be canceled.

A: Following that schedule lands your weekend when the kids are at their parents. Which is why I wanted to discuss. But if you want to continue to be snooty and treat me like I’m an idiot we can not discuss and you can go 3 weekends without the kids. So sorry I wanted to work with you on it. Next time I will keep my mouth shut and you can figure it out on your own.

G: That time is independent of my time as it’s not time spent with me. I have them for the 4^th this year so I take them that weekend.

A: No. Technically you have them for the 4^th. One night. Not a weekend. But fine. Have it your way. Sorry I tried to help.

G: You have been pretty snooty yourself. Read some of your texts and emails. Frankly the whole thing needs to be changed as it has been a couple years. We can either meet with a mediator or do it ourselves. I’ll take them for the weekend. And consider it the remaining days of the vacation.

A: I simply said I wanted to discuss. I was trying to give you more time. You took it like I was trying to fuck you. So forget it. I don’t know why I try to help you anyway. I prefer what you are saying anyway. Gives me more weekends. So we will follow your schedule.

G: So just so we have it strait I’m using vacation. Time to get the kids on the 20^th when Mike is here and the July 4^th weekend. That means my weekends will be the 14^th, 20^th, 27^th, and the 4^th. Thanks. Then again in late July. Enjoy the 3 weekends you have the kids this summer. Would you like to restart this conversation?

A: My conversation started as I wanted to discuss the schedule when you drop the kids off. YOU turned it into THIS!!!! Have fun telling Savannah she can’t go to the Diamondbacks game/ Phx Mercury game because you want to be an ass and take the kids and cxl their plans. Also you owe me $100 for cxling each of these events.

G: I already said she could go to the Diamondbacks game. The Mercury tickets are your problem. BTW I haven’t cxled anything yet. You started this conversation several days ago when you said Sunday nights weren’t included in my weekends. Just picked it back up today. This is an ongoing conversation and I am willing to work with you but when you set me off by being snooty in one message this is the response.

A: You would rather we follow the schedule the way it is written???? We can do that.

G: Allyson I just pulled what I wrote out of the decree and you would get all of 3 weekends between now and when school starts. I want to rewrite the whole thing. I think it would be better if we did. Now if you’ll excuse me Savannah and TJ want my attention.

A: That schedule I wanted to discuss I was only giving myself 3 weekends anyway. Wow so glad we had this fight for that. Thanks for just talking to me about it.