He met someone new...

G pulled me in the other room on Halloween night and said he wanted to talk to me. Then he said since he didn't consult me before, he wanted to now and asked my opinion on introducing dates to the kids. I told him that he needs to wait a REALLY long time. Only introduce them if they are going to be living together or getting engaged. He said that is ridiculous. That they need to meet to know if they get along. I said, it doesn't matter. If you are dating someone and to the point of living together or getting married and the kids meet her and they don't get along are you going to dump her??? No, you will just work on the kids and her relationship. He didn't really say much after that. *sigh* So he has someone new. I am worried about when he will introduce her to the kids. But I am also annoyed that he can meet girls so easy when frankly I haven't met any quality guy in the 2.5 years since we split. It is depressing.

A few days later...

As I picked up S from school her teacher quietly asked me if there had been a death in the family. I was shocked by her question. She was trying to talk to me without S overhearing. Plus there was a line of cars waiting to pick up their kids. So I said I would email her. Here are the emails...

From: Me

Sent: Wednesday, November 06, 2013 2:59 PM
To: Teacher
Subject: Curious about what happened

 

I'm curious and concerned about what happened with S at school today. Please let me know so we can figure it out.

 

Thanks,

Me

 

On Wed, Nov 6, 2013 at 4:21 PM, Teacher wrote:

Hi, 

 

We were drawing pictures in preparation of our class book.  Her story kept changing – She spoke to Ms. P and Ms. M (my intern) and they to me.

 

At first she was saying something about an infant sibling that had died and then she said her mom was crying because her mom (I’m assuming grandmother had died)

 

I really didn’t know what to make of it – which is why I brought it to your attention?

 

Her picture was happy and it was about her selling ice cream – but off to the side she drew and labeled “ Mom”  and she looked sad?

 

Please let me know what you find out and if there is anything I can do.

 

Thanks,

Teacher

 

From: Me
Sent: Wednesday, November 06, 2013 4:44 PM
To: Teacher
Subject: Re: Curious about what happened

 

The only thing I can think of is she overheard someone talking about her therapy. Unfortunately when I lost my job she can't go anymore as AHCCCS wont cover it. But what happened was after divorcing me her dad he met someone new. they lived together for a while and she got pregnant. She had the baby but after two weeks she left him and took the baby with her. She refuses to let my ex see her or the baby. I tried talking to her so my kids would be able to see their little brother but things didn't work out. They were having a hard time dealing with not seeing her or their brother so I had gotten them in therapy. While we never said this in front of the kids (I don't think) apparently S must have overheard. Because the therapist compared the kids not being able to see the girlfriend or baby anymore to being like a death. And they having to deal with the loss.

 

...Actually, now that I think about it my ex mentioned dating someone new. He was asking about what I thought would be a reasonable amount of time before he introduces the kids. I said because of everything with the last girlfriend he needs to wait as long as possible. Meaning not until he either moves in or proposes to the new girl. I am GUESSING that maybe he was talking to her on the phone and explaining why he wouldn't introduce the kids. That maybe he said that by them not seeing their baby brother and his mom that it was like they died. And maybe S overheard this. I will have to call him tonight and ask him about it.

 

She does talk about g/f and brother still. She misses them and is still dealing with the loss of them. When she gets sad about them she will usually complain about a tummy ache or other illness. I wish I could take her in to see her therapist but I don't have the money to cover it without insurance.

 

Me

 

Teacher	8:27 AM (2 hours ago)
to me

 

Thanks for sharing this.  I will let you know if anything else is brought out in class.

 

Thanks,

Teacher

 

 

I will update later after I talk to G...