Last week G told me his new schedule is M-F 12 (noon) - 9pm. This causes many problems. He obviously can't pick the kids up at that time of night. Which means not only can't he have them any more time than every other weekend, it also means he is unable to pick them up on Friday's for the weekend. We talked about it and disucssed it. He wanted to be able to have his g/f pick them up on Friday. She would take them home, get them dinner, and get them to bed. After thinking about it I decided that I would give it a try. After all she is kinda their step mom at this point, they would miss a night with them which they already miss enough time with them, and I would miss another night to myself to do my own thing. Say what you want, that time really helps me. So this was to be the first weekend she should be picking up the kids...
Aug 2 1:48pm Me: I just got a reminder call from the peditrician. Forgot S has her well chek appt at 4. So I will get the kids then meet you (or Sam?) after the appt.
Aug 2 1:51pm G: tomorrow?
Aug 2 1:51pm Me: Yes, tomorrow
Aug 2 4:00pm G: G/f isn't feeling well. I will get the kids after work or Saturday morning.
Aug 2 4:56pm Me: Call me when you are off work so we can talk
Aug 2 4:56pm G: about what?
Aug 2 5:30pm G: what works best, Friday night at 9:15 or early Saturday?
Aug 2 6:10pm Me: Because I actually had plans tomorrow night. And if she planned to get them from daycare I don't understand why she can't get them from me. But it does seem that she is avoiding me. If you are trying to hide the fact that she is pregnant I have known for a while. Like I said, I am not dumb. And no, you cannot pick them up 2 hours past bedtime.
Aug 2 6:44pm G: First off I asked what worked better for you. Secondly it's not g/f's responsibility to watch the kids. She was doing this as a favor to the kids so they wouldn't be disappointed and me so I didn't have to make a long drive in the morning. I haven't talked to you about her pregnancy becuase it's none of your business, not because you're stupid. She changed her mind which is basically the equivalent of a baby sitter canceling. Sorry about your plans. See you Saturday morning.
Aug 2 7:59pm Me: Just when I start to be ok with g/f you say something to make me not like her all over again. I sure as hell hope the kids mean more to her than a sitter. They LOVE her. And they are just as upset when she cxls on them as when you do. And this wasn't just about me and my plans but you didn't want to call and discuss it. Whatever. See you Sat.
**S has had a tough week. I don't know why. If she were older I would say she is hormonal and PMSing. I know part of it is that she is tired. But I don't know why else she is having a bad week. She is very whiney and gets upset easily. She has been crying when I drop her off at daycare in the morning. I just don't know. THEN we had to cxl plans on Wednesday because of my dentist appt. THEN I told her we would go swimming last night and got to the pool and it was closed. It was looking like I would have to CXL swimming and at the same time G is telling me that he is g/f is cxling picking her up. In her emotional state I was not relishing this conversation. Ended up we were able to use Nana's pool and swim. Plus we got to have dinner with Nana (our plans that were cxled on Wed) so everything turned out ok there. As for tonight, she is excited to go to the doc and spend her new gift card from her birthday so I think she will be ok with seeing her daddy tomorrow morning. But it still pisses me off and makes me worried about all future Friday pickups.
